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What’s your Parenting Style?

Certain approaches to parenting can make a difference

No one has all the answers when it comes to how to raise safe and healthy children who are equipped to succeed in the world. Guardians, grandparents, and other caregivers can also benefit from understanding and communicating effectively with the teens in their lives.

Take this quick assessment to learn more about the things you are doing right and what you might improve upon when parenting your teen.

Man Having A Serious Talk With His Daughter


You mostly use a Strict parenting style. While you are very good at setting limits, your relationship with your teen may include conflict and power struggles. You might also get frustrated trying to control your teen’s behaviour.

What you do well:

  • Know the importance of setting limits and expectations.
  • Your willingness to discipline your child shows how much you love and care for him.
  • Keep track of your teen’s behaviour and whereabouts.
  • Work hard to protect your teen from problem behaviours and getting into trouble.

What you can work on:

  • Create a more nurturing and warm atmosphere by verbally expressing your love for your teen through praise and affection.
  • Listen and respect your teen’s opinions, even though you may not agree. This will help keep the lines of communication open.
  • Depending on what rule is broken, make sure the discipline is consistent with the consequences you’ve established with your teen.
  • When appropriate, provide opportunities where your teen can negotiate certain rules. Take time to explain to your teen why non-negotiable rules are in place, and reinforce that it is because you love her and want her to be safe.
  • Shift your focus from what your teen is doing wrong to what he’s doing right. Spend more time reinforcing good behaviour than punishing bad behaviour.
  • Be curious rather than judgmental. Help your teen develop his ability to think and express his ideas and opinions.


You mostly use a Lenient, or Easygoing parenting style.   While you communicate well with your teen, you value your close relationship with your teen and may be reluctant to set limits or discipline, and may be considered indulgent. You might feel frustrated at times trying to get your teen to obey rules, and fearful that you will lose his love if you try to set limits.

What you do well:

  • Give your teen a lot of love and warmth.
  • Provide a nurturing environment, full of respect.
  • Communicate openly.
  • Allow freedom of thought and expression.

What you can work on:

  • Actively provide more discipline and be firm.
  • Be consistent and avoid making empty threats.
  • Set and enforce clear limits and rules and consequences for breaking them in advance.
  • Routinely keep track of your teen’s whereabouts and activities, and check up on your teen announced.
  • Clearly communicate your expectations.
  • Network with other parents to make it easier to set and enforce rules.
  • Think about the values and abilities you want for your child as s/he matures and set expectations that will encourage his/her development.


You mostly use a Hands-off parenting style. While you give your teen a lot of independence, you probably don’t feel very connected to them. You may feel too busy or overwhelmed with other obligations to be very involved in your teen’s life.

What you do well:

  • You love your teen.
  • Place a high value on independence and self-regulation.

What you can work on:

  • Express interest and get involved in your teen’s life.
  • Actively set and enforce clear rules and consequences.
  • Consistently keep track of your teen’s activities and whereabouts, and check up on him unannounced.
  • Find a way to work through conflict instead of ignoring it. Call a family meeting, or seek a trusted professional to learn how.
  • Communicate more openly and listen more.
  • Provide warmth and love.
  • Talk with other parents so it’s easier to keep track of your teen.
  • Spend time together without interruptions.
Woman With Her Teenage Daughter


A Balanced parenting style is shown to be the most effective parenting style for raising healthy, well-adjusted, successful teens.

What you do well:

  •     Nurture, discipline and respect your teen.
  •     Show love, warmth and interest.
  •     Communicate openly and listen well.
  •     Set standards and clear, reasonable limits.
  •     Keep track of your teen’s behaviour and whereabouts.
  •     Enforce limits and consequences on behaviour firmly and consistently.
  •     Allow freedom of thought and expression.
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